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Achieve your goals: find a goal buddy

Yesterday, I received this email from my son.  He was home on semester break, sitting in the basement, when he sent it to me with a copy to his dad and brother. We’ve done “family challenges” before (see a holiday challenge) and often use emails to get it started.


For a handful of reasons including the fact that I would like my parents to live past the age of 65, Jack to suck in that gut and so I can put on a little weight as well as run more than a mile without my lungs collapsing, I think we should have a family workout competition.  What I’m thinking is that on a week to week basis we would have a workout requirement of 3 days.  Your workout could be anything of your choosing, swimming, running, soccer, weights, yoga.  But there will have to be approval from the other family members (sorry mom walking around the block does not count).  The consequence for not meeting the weekly quota will be a $5 penalty that will go into a pot.  This is obviously on the honor system of the parties involved so mom and dad no cheating.  I think the best method would be to set goals for ourselves to reach in 4-5 months from now and the person(s) who reach those goals will split the pot.  Just a thought, let me know what you guys think about it.


The thing is each of us already started to set personal goals, but it’s so easy to make excuses to oneself.  It’s much harder to come up with an excuse when you have a “Goal Buddy”. We’ve all agreed to start the challenge next Monday.

Last weekend, I met Pat Schmatz, award winning author of Bluefish, who shared her interesting twist on having a goal buddy.  As a writer, she’s developed a number of strategies to keep herself on track. My favorite is her Sunday night phone calls from her writing goal buddy.  On the call, they set their goals for the week and review their goals from the previous. No excuses are allowed.  I suspect they are both pretty political because if they don’t meet their goal, they need to send $5 to the political party they do not support. It’s working for them.  They’ve never had to ante up the $5.  When setting their weekly goals, they also question each other if they seem unrealistic.

Making sure your goals are achievable is an essential part of the process.  Success will help keep you working and moving forward. Everyone in my family has until Monday to tweak their goals.

I think mine will have something to do with weight loss… muscle strength….maybe chocolate.     I try and work chocolate into everything I do.

This Week:  Find a goal buddy to help you keep those New Year’s resolutions.


Forget Resolutions…Just Dream!


May all your troubles last as long as your New Year’s resolutions.  ~Joey Adams

Happy New Year.  I’ve been waiting for some downtime to get back to my writing.  It seems I’m often waiting for some event to get myself back on track.  But then life happens…this time it was out of town guests.  We’ve had guests in our house since December 4th—first my mother-in-law, then my brother and his family, and now friends of my older son.  I expect the house to empty out on January 20th.   I could make that my target date to get on track, start those New Years Resolutions…but actually I don’t make resolutions.

Historically, I can keep my New Year’s resolution through most of January.  A really good year will find me sticking to my resolutions through the first week of February.  Maybe I should call them January resolutions, at least then I could feel successful.

So now, instead of New Year’s resolutions, I take some time to dream.  What do I want my life to look like?  What do I want to accomplish?  Once I have a clear vision of my dream, I develop my action goals.  I frame my goals so they are achievable in the moment.  Instead of a resolution to write daily (that never works for me), I commit to engaging in activities that support my writing life.   Instead of a resolution to meditate more, I commit to spending time deepening my connection with spirit.  These are goals I can accomplish. With these goals, I can feel successful.  Every moment focused on a goal, builds momentum.  Momentum creates action and action brings results. Each moment that I put action towards one of my goals, feeds my belief that I can achieve my dreams.  Only through believing in your dreams will you achieve them. Our lives are filled with detours and delays, but in any moment you can choose to embrace a dream and take a small action towards your life’s vision.

This Week:  Dream…Envision the life you want!  Then, a moment at a time, take action towards your dream.

Peace and Blessings,

Mary Jo