You have a dream and you even have a plan on how to achieve it, but you’re not making any progress. So what’s in your way? If you are feeling frozen, spend some time considering what’s behind your procrastination and it may help you get moving. In Dr. Linda Sapadin’s book, It’s About Time!: The Six Styles of Procrastination and How to Overcome Them, she discusses procrastinator types. The following is a quick overview:
- The perfectionist – They don’t finish projects because they need to be perfect and if it’s not done than it can’t be imperfect.
- The Dreamer – It can be fun to dream about doing something, but actually having to do the work and focus on details is another story.
- The Worrier – This is living with the cup half empty. Worriers fear change, they want to know the future. What if the cup ends up empty?
- The Defier – Does resistance to authority keep you from moving forward? Do you resent being told what to do? Many high school students who want to go away to school procrastinate filling out their college applications because their parents told them ‘to get it done’.
- The Crisis-Maker – Some people need to feel backed up against a deadline to get moving. They feel most productive and alive when working in the overload mode.
- The Overdoer – I think a better name for this type of procrastinator is the Over-Giver. It’s the person on every committee, the one always taking on the extra project. An Over-Giver always has more to do than she has time for. Did you notice I said “she”? I think there are cultural messages that have created the Over-Giver.
Knowing your procrastination style will help you uncover the root of the problem and change your behavior. So what type of procrastinator are you?
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“I made the chickpea and tomato recipe from your blog. I loved it.” Being first generation Italian, I love Mediterranean cooking and Yvonne; being part Italian, never disappoints me with her new recipes at www.myhalalkitchen.com. We had just left the organic farmers market in Lincoln Park and we were having a cup of coffee.
“It was so easy and tasty. So, where are you with your cookbook?” I asked.
“I’ve been busy….” She said.
Yvonne is an accomplished food writer, recipe developer, culinary instructor and consultant. She’s published a book on organic cleaning and was recently featured in a half page spread in the Chicago Tribune about her cooking and work. BUT…what her heart wants is to publish her cookbook. It’s almost done. As a matter of fact she has drafts and outlines for three different cookbooks. She has the expertise to succeed with this project along with a great platform for promoting her book.
Eventually she admitted that she hadn’t picked up the manuscript in over a year. Like many of us, she needs to ask herself…………..WHY?
Why is it that deep down we know what we want to be doing, but we don’t do it? Why do we let life distract us? Is it fear, family demands, lack of clarity, old stuff we haven’t let go of? The reasons dreams are left to dwindle and become fallow is endless.
How about you? Is your dream withering? The first step is to really look at your dream and decide is this really what my heart wants or is it my ego saying I should want this. Once you’re clear about what’s bursting inside you and you’re willing to move past fear, a few actions steps can catapult you to success.
- Dedicate a certain amount of time to the project each week. Structure it any way that works for you. Set the intention and keep it. Start small. Some people will carve out a block of time once a week; for someone else it might be getting up 15 minutes earlier each day to dedicate to their dream.
- Visually plot your dream into your life. Either through words or pictures, identify all your responsibilities and desires. Life requires a certain balance so dream big but be sure to take care of your basic responsibilities. If you want to visually plot your dream on the computer try one of the free mind mapping programs. This is a great way to re-evaluate and prioritize what you’re doing.
- Break your dream down into manageable action steps. Each small step completed is an accomplishment. The more you feel accomplished the faster you’ll move.
- Find a working buddy. A friend of mine was struggling to finish her thesis. Even scrubbing floors was more inviting than her paper. I also had a few projects that needed renewed attention. We decided to meet every Tuesday morning for coffee with our laptops. We visit for about 15 minutes then both hunker down to work for three hours. It’s much harder to say ‘I don’t have time today’ when you’ve made a promise to someone else.
If you are really stuck and need jumper cables to ignite your dream consider hiring a mentor or coach. People often hire personal trainers for their expertise in order to formulate a program—and of course to get their butt kicked. It’s the same with a life coach or mentor. Hiring a mentor is a commitment to change, a commitment to oneself, and ultimately a commitment to birthing your dream. There’s no better time than the present to recreate your life.
Oh, and keep your eyes open for a great cookbook. I have it on the best authority that it’s busting out soon.
This Week: Incorporate one of the above dream actions steps into your life.
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I allow my intuition to lead my path. ~~Manuel Puig
“I’d never have a reading,” he said.
“Why,” I asked.
“It’s too scary. I don’t want to know what’s going to happen in the future. I don’t want anyone to tell me something scary.”
This isn’t the first time I’ve heard this. I know there are people out there who focus on predicting what is going to happen. But remember, you are the most important person in creating your life and you choose your actions. Given that, if I choose to overeat and never exercise, it’s likely I’ll develop health problems as I age. So I choose to eat well and exercise. Of course, I definitely consider chocolate on my healthy eating list.
This is how I approach an intuitive reading. An intuitive reading or psychic reading should never scare you. I’m always hesitant to use the word psychic because for many people it conjures up negative images. (Though changing my name to MADAME GISELLE might be fun.) A “good” intuitive reading should help give you a clear picture about the truth around an issue in the present moment. Sometimes it might also explore how you got to this present moment. But, what I believe is most important is the reading should suggest steps you can take to move forward related to the issue. Instead of scaring you, an intuitive reading should provide you some tools and bring you a sense of peace.
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This Week: Be open to a little intuitive guidance.
Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams…Pope John XXIII
The weeks before this historic election, the one thing that supporters of John McCain and Barack Obama had in common was passion. Listening to talk radio or TV commentators, I observed these feelings and their resulting rhetoric intensify. On the daytime TV show, the View, the hosts’ passion often resulted in intense arguing. Passions were so strong that the panel seemed unable to appreciate each others’ viewpoint.
It seems that there were two very distinct emotions driving the passion seen in this election season—one was fear the other was hope. Fear is an emotional response to an external threat. What were these threats? Potential loss of jobs, money, and homes fueled the fear. Anxiety over terrorism, the war in Iraq and loss of our freedoms stoked the flame of fear.
The flip side of the fear was hope. Hope is a belief in the potential for a positive outcome. What fueled hope? The same issues that triggered fear also sparked hope. Hope was ignited by the belief that jobs and the economy could improve or the war could end.
As we go forward in our life we have a choice to choose fear and anxiety or hope. If we choose hope, we also need to choose action. Just as President-elect Obama must act to implement change to realize the dreams and hopes of the American people; we need to act in our own life. What are the things we desire, what are the positive outcomes we’re hoping for? It’s time to take action, embrace our passion and move forward…for change…for hope…for our future.
This week: If you’re anxious or fearful, speak it out loud and breathe. Then flip the emotional coin, grab on to hope and take the next best step.