Category Archives: self-help

Choosing Joy through Laughter

Laughter is an instant vacation~~Milton Berle

Do you wish you could lose weight, find the perfect relationship or have more money?  Do you think that if you could have these things you would be happier?  I’ve worked with a number of people lately who said, my life is good, I have a good job, a relationship, money’s not an issue, but I’m not really happy.  They could spend years in therapy trying to find the underlying reason for their unhappiness…but would they find their way back to joy?

Fame, relationships and money all bring a particular energy to our life, but do not necessarily bring the energy of joy.  A life filled with joy is a choice found in the present moment.  Maybe your day can’t be joyful, but a moment can.

If you’re struggling with how to do this, one of the fastest ways to a change your mood is to laugh.  Try renting a funny movie, go to a comedy club or take a laughing yoga class.  I haven’t tried laughing yoga but recently went to Bikram “hot” yoga with a friend.  How did we end up there?  Groupon!  I wonder how many people have ended up someplace they’d never be, if not for groupon.

The temp in the room was 105° and my body drizzled sweat like a summer shower.   Face smashed in the mat while struggling to twist into the pose, I glanced towards my friend.  Her body contorted like deflated bellows of an accordion seemed disconnected from her bright red and swollen face. I couldn’t see the white of her eyes, just beady dots through narrow slits. I knew I looked worse.  I quickly turned away, biting my lip in an attempt to quell my urge to laugh.  I knew if I started to laugh there would be no stopping and I’m sure laughing in hot yoga is frowned upon.

As we left the yoga studio, we burst into uncontrolled laughter.  We laughed to our car and laughed all the way home.  Irregardless of the possible health benefits, hot yoga was definitely worth the laugh. As far as hot yoga goes, the jury is still out.

This week:  Once a day, check in and see how you’re feeling.  If you’re not feeling happy, find a way to laugh and feel the energy of joy.  It’s a choice.


Overcoming Procrastination with Bookends

“If and When were planted, and Nothing grew.” ~Proverb

Procrastination………….who me? I know how to get things done; I also know how to procrastinate. Sometimes procrastination has to do with not feeling good enough, other times it’s about a task I hate or one that is just overwhelming like U.S. INCOME TAXES. For years I applied for not one extension on my taxes, but two. I don’t prepare my own taxes; I just have to pull the information together to get to my accountant. Yet, somehow I didn’t find the time until a few days before the last extension.

Now I apply bookends to finish a task I dread like taxes.   When I decide when I’m going to work on it, I plan a pre and post project incentive. It’s my bookends. I treat myself or do something I enjoy prior to starting the project and again when I finish. Sometimes, it’s something small like a trip to Starbucks before sorting through my papers, other times it’s a day at the zoo or the art institute. Why do bookends work? I think because the first bookend marks it’s time to start and then the last bookend acknowledges the accomplishment. Sometimes the bookend at the end is something that I’m really dying to do or is time sensitive. This gives me the added push to slug through until I’m finished. So if you find yourself procrastinating, try bookends.

This week: Identify something you’ve been putting off and give it some bookends.

Intensive Care for a Nuturer’s Soul

“Intensive Self-Care is not being selfish, and it’s not a luxury, but rather an essential practice for your survival and overall well-being”  ~ Hueina Su

Are you over-worked, overwhelmed, running on empty, with little time for yourselves?  I found a great book that will help anyone living in a state of stress.   It’s called “Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others” and it’s written by Hueina Su who is an internationally recognized speaker and expert in helping people find the missing peace & balance in their stressful lives.

Our world is fast-paced and loaded with a tremendous volume of competing priorities and responsibilities. The need to center ourselves, catch our breath and release the stress is probably more crucial than ever. How are we to accomplish this when we are faced with the overwhelming need to make a difference in others? Hueina’s book comes at the perfect timing.  Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a definitely gentle loving breeze with a clear and strong message effortlessly delivered.

This is a must read for anyone who is taking care of others and needs some tender loving care for themselves. Get this amazing book for yourself and anyone you care TODAY. It’s terrific, timely and pertinent to most of our lives — preventing and eliminating stress & burnout!  This book makes a perfect Mother’s Day gift, and when you buy it by April 22, you will receive dozens of bonus gifts from many leading experts.

Shift: A Woman’s Guide to Transformation

“There is nothing unknown to our inner teacher, and our

True Essence will never frighten us.”–Marion Ross, Ph.D.

shift-smallShift: A Woman’s Guide to Transformation

by Tracy Latz, M.D. and Marion Ross, Ph.D.


This book is a manual for personal transformation that will empower you and radically change your life. Dr.’s Latz and Ross define the 12 Keys- the biggest emotional obstacles we all need to overcome move forward with new perspectives. This book gives simple and practical techniques which help people in transforming their lives. You will identify the source of your stress; and Drs. Latz and Ross give bulleted, targeted recommendations to show you how to get past the obstacles in your life along with real-life examples of how others have done so using their tools. This book can be used as an intensive personal healing journey during which you shift your situation or jump-start your life; or as a reference guide to be consulted one chapter at a time whenever a specific issue or challenge arises and stalls forward momentum in your life.  If you’re truly serious about letting go of sorrow, anger, low self-esteem, abuse or other issues that have led you to remain stuck, then you are ready for Shift.  Find out more:

This week:  Commit to one small step to empower you life!