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Is this the journey you want to make?  Invest in the process not the outcome.~~Kumar Rao It’s funny, because I feel as I go through different phases of my life, I keep sharing the same messages in completely different environments.  … Continue reading

Intensive Care for a Nuturer’s Soul

“Intensive Self-Care is not being selfish, and it’s not a luxury, but rather an essential practice for your survival and overall well-being”  ~ Hueina Su

Are you over-worked, overwhelmed, running on empty, with little time for yourselves?  I found a great book that will help anyone living in a state of stress.   It’s called “Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others” and it’s written by Hueina Su who is an internationally recognized speaker and expert in helping people find the missing peace & balance in their stressful lives.

Our world is fast-paced and loaded with a tremendous volume of competing priorities and responsibilities. The need to center ourselves, catch our breath and release the stress is probably more crucial than ever. How are we to accomplish this when we are faced with the overwhelming need to make a difference in others? Hueina’s book comes at the perfect timing.  Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a definitely gentle loving breeze with a clear and strong message effortlessly delivered.

This is a must read for anyone who is taking care of others and needs some tender loving care for themselves. Get this amazing book for yourself and anyone you care TODAY. It’s terrific, timely and pertinent to most of our lives — preventing and eliminating stress & burnout!  This book makes a perfect Mother’s Day gift, and when you buy it by April 22, you will receive dozens of bonus gifts from many leading experts.

The Dance of Help and Independence

“The oldest trees often bear the sweetest fruit.” – German Proverb

At 90, she can still beat me in Scrabble.  She’s taught three generations of first graders, volunteered at the local hospital, helped at the church and served on the library planning committee.  She quilts, gardens, completes the daily crossword, and has read more books then I’ll ever read.  She does her own laundry and cooking, and is happy in her home. A year ago, she decided it was time to stop driving—the first step in relinquishing independence.  Now, she is in a position of needing a little more help.  Actually, she could use more help than she would like to admit.  Her family finds themselves in the unenviable position of trying to convince her to accept some assistance.   She likes her independence and solitude and hasn’t been very open to their suggestions.  Being from the generation that worries what other people think, she doesn’t want anyone making any judgments about her capabilities. 

Many families are faced with the same situation.  Worried about their elderly parents’ ability to drive a car or care for themselves, they struggle with how to take on this new role of caretaker.  Some people charge ahead, others sit back and acquiesce to their parents’ entrenchment while worrying and hoping that they will be okay. 

I believe that the number one thing a caretaker needs to remember is that everyone needs to be recognized for the things they have done and validated for the things that they are still able to do.  Any discussion of assistance should be prefaced with recognition of ones accomplishments and competencies.  Young or old we all want to be witnessed for our strength and abilities.  

Watch the following video for a new perspective on validation.

This week:  Validate someone you love!

Peace and Blessings,

Mary Jo